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Due dei più grandi gioghi derivanti dalle parole o dalle azioni offensive sono l’amarezza e il senso di colpa. Esse ci fanno vedere, improvvisamente, noi stessi in modo diverso, con una prospettiva distorta. La rabbia ci induce a credere che i commenti negativi che riceviamo, mettono in discussione il nostro valore. Ci biasimiamo per i torti che altre persone ci hanno arrecato. Ma attenzione! la distorsione è pervasiva, e può penetrare in altre aree della nostra vita. Ogni volta che scegliamo di vedere noi stessi attraverso la lente delle nostre ferite, ci priviamo dell’opportunità di guardarenoi stessi attraverso gli occhi di Dio. Nessun altro ha l’autorità per definire chi sei. Lui ti ha creato, dice che ti ha fatto a sua immagine (Genesi 1:27), redento e restaurato grazie a Cristo (Galati 4: 4-5), co-erede insieme con Cristo (Romani 8:17), teneramente amato (Romani 5: 8), e valutato oltre misura (Matteo 10: 29-31). Qualunque sia la vostra storia , il Signore del cielo e della terra anela a vedere voi se stessi in quella luce. Quando siamo stati profondamente feriti, non dobbiamo camminare attraverso queste porte di distorsione e isolamento. Non è una vergogna chiedere aiuto da un compagno di fede che ci dirà la verità: Non è stata solo responsabilità tua. Nessuno dovrebbe essere trattato in quel modo. Possiamo fidarci di Dio che potrà portare ogni pezzo del nostro cuore a brandelli e metterlo ai suoi piedi, sapendo che comprende il tuo sentirti affranto, confidando nella sua giustizia perfetta, e credendo nel suo desiderio incessante di accogliervi nel suo amore “. http://www.desiringgod.org/articlesly our- wounds-do-not-define-you
DECEMBER 13, 2016

Your Wounds Do Not Define You

Article by MaryLynn Johnson
Guest Contributor

Words and actions are powerful. They can build people up, or tear them down. They can pour out love, or breed hate. They can establish trust, or destroy it. They can soothe deep and powerful wounds. Or they can create them.
Most of us have experienced wound-inflicting words or actions from other people at some point in our lives. The pain creates a burden we feel forced to carry. The lies are easy to believe. The hurt feels inescapable. Freedom seems hopeless as the scars threaten to resurface and bring a cloud of resentment.
Where do we find hope for real healing and the strength to forgive?
God grieves with us when others harm us. He wants to help us lay down the burden those wounds have caused so that we can step forward in grace and freedom. It does not guarantee complete healing will come right away, but it does mean we can open ourselves to Christ’s work in our hearts, as he carries us through this valley one day at a time.
Wounds Will Lie About You
Two of the greatest burdens of hurtful words or actions are bitterness and guilt. They cause us to suddenly see ourselves differently, with a distorted perspective. Beneath the anger, we’re tempted to believe the negative remarks and question our worth. We blame ourselves for the wrongs others have done to us. After a while, the distortion becomes pervasive, and it can seep into other areas of our life.
Each time we choose to see ourselves through the lens of our wounds, we refuse the opportunity to look at ourselves through God’s eyes. No one else has the authority to define who you are. He created you. He says that you are made in his image (Genesis 1:27), redeemed and restored because of Christ (Galatians 4:4–5), co-heirs along with Christ (Romans 8:17), dearly loved (Romans 5:8), and valued beyond measure (Matthew 10:29–31). Whatever your story, the Lord of heaven and earth longs for you to see yourself in that light.
When we’ve been deeply wounded, we should not walk through these doorways of distortion into isolation. It is not shameful to ask for help from a fellow believer who will speak the truth to us. Allow them to remind you again that the offense against you wasn’t fair. It wasn’t right. It wasn’t your fault. No one should have treated you that way. And God can be trusted with this hurt. You can bring every piece of your tattered heart and place it at his feet, knowing he feels the sting of this brokenness, trusting his perfect justice, and believing in his relentless desire to make you whole with his love.
Laying Bricks
The words people hurl at us are like destructive bricks flying in our direction. We cannot control if they will be thrown, and we cannot control how they will bruise us. But it is our choice to pick up those bricks and carry them with us, allowing them to weigh us down and multiply the harm they caused. Even one can become so overwhelming that it takes up precious space in our hearts that can no longer be filled with God’s fullness.
The wounds are real. The bricks are real. Each one represents a profound hurt that may be difficult to put down. Still, bitterness and guilt do not have to be part of the story any longer. We can choose to leave the bricks on the ground and halt the damage.
At times, carrying around the bricks feels easier because it creates the illusion of justified anger. But our anger will accomplish nothing except for devouring our hearts with a heavy weight that will keep us from experiencing the life and joy Christ desires for us. Faith and forgiveness are the only ways to lay down the burden.
In the beginning, the choice to forgive may only last a few moments before we find ourselves attempting to pick up the brick again. That’s why we have to make a continual commitment to forgive and entrust the situation to God — renewing that commitment each time bitter feelings, anxious thoughts, and ideas of worthlessness or revenge come creeping into our mind.
Wounds don’t heal overnight. Some of them burn off and on for years. Forgiveness is not an easy choice. But it will set us free.
How Should We Respond?
When we’ve been hurt deeply, it’s difficult to see how we might have hurt others with our own words and actions. People who are wounded often lash out at others. We can help end the cycle by being kind and cautious as we interact with others. Paul writes in Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Grace.
Our words should be full of grace toward others, even when they have harmed us or treated us wrongly. It’s tempting to sling cutting words right back at those who have hurt us, but grace brings more healing than vengeance. We are called to forgive as we have been forgiven (Ephesians 4:32), continually moving forward, and wishing no harm on others. If we have made that mistake, we should seek repentance and accept the grace given to each of us by Christ.
The road to laying down the burden of deep wounds might seem long and difficult. It may be hard to imagine finally letting go of something that has weighed you down for so long. But Christ longs to exchange our burdens for freedom. He wants to help us step out of the dark and bring healing to our heart.
Christ has so much more to offer us than the bricks we carry.
MaryLynn Johnson (@MaryLynnJohnson) is a writer and blogger with a heart for ministry and using words to encourage others. Keep up with her at Letting Go of Why.



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